The way you go about parenting in general or inculcating discipline in your children can have a lasting impact on their development. As such, we have described four different types of parenting methods in brief and their effect on children.
This form of parenting puts rules in place for children to follow with no room for exceptions. Children therefore have little understanding of challenges or obstacles as they are only supposed to go ‘by the book’.
Such parents may resort to punishments instead of consequences, and while children might grow to appreciate rules and authority, they do however suffer from self-esteem issues in later stages of their lives, while exhibiting hostility and aggression towards those who seem submissive.
A slightly toned down version of authoritarianism, rules are put in place, but room for some exception is granted. Such parents may even consider their children’s feelings before setting rules. They would also prefer to discipline with consequence rather than punishment.
Authoritative parents resort to positive reinforcement in the form of rewards for good behaviour on part of the child. As such, kids grow up to be happy and are more capable of taking decisions and assessing risks on their own.
Taking the approach of ‘kids will be kids’; permissive parenting affords little room for discipline. Moreover, they only intervene when things go out of hand. While it puts less pressure on kids, such parenting through its friendly overture makes it hard for children to appreciate or follow rules and regulations.
Also, such kids tend to be weak in academics as it is a disciplinary field that requires focus and comprehension from their part. Appreciating authority too becomes a challenge thereby adding to the overall effect of lagging academically.
As the term suggests, parents who fall into this mould are often neglectful and expect their kids to practically raise themselves. This is generally visible in parents with history of substance abuse or mental health issues.
As a result of this total lack of guidance, kids from such families not only exhibit self-esteem issues, they also tend to inculcate poor academic skills. Moreover, kids from such backgrounds lead unhappy lives which affects their adulthood in a myriad of negative ways.
It must be noted here that these parenting styles will not always yield the type of results explained above. For instance, kids who have been neglected can be good at academics, but this is more an exception than a rule.